When was the last time someone told you to expect the best?
Imagine the power and practicality of a simple phrase like that.
One day, I was getting on a bus in El Salvador. Salvadorans don’t trust each other on buses, and the tension was visible on their faces (and I could feel it in my body!).
In a country where violence is the norm, this is what happened within five minutes of getting on the bus:
- A teenage girl gave up her seat for an older woman–and the older woman held the girl’s bag in her lap.
- A policeman was talking to teenagers in a friendly and non-confrontational way while they skateboarded near a statue.
- A woman vendor on the street was having the most delightful belly-laugh with a man passing by.
I remember that day because when I got on the bus, I said, “I’m going to see how many good things I can see on my ride home today.”
I had never done that before.
And I was so surprised when these things happened one right after the other. So much kindness, respect, and joy!
There have been other times when:
- nobody gets up from their seats on the bus to offer even a really old lady a seat.
- I was waiting for a bus and saw a man try to steal a woman’s cell phone while she held her two-year-old son.
And since police aren’t trusted, I had never seen teenagers and policeman casually chatting.
There are many reasons why I should have thought, “I hope nothing bad happens on my ride home today.”
I even started to wonder, “Are good things actually happening around me all the time? Do I just not notice them because I don’t expect to see them?”
The answer is yes!
When you expect the best, the good stuff finds you.
You’re more prepared to see it because your perspective has shifted.
This can totally change the way you interact with the world.
Think about when you walk into work and know you’re going to see that coworker who rubs you the wrong way.
Or when you have to start a difficult conversation with your spouse.
You can transform the situation when you expect the best going into it.
Even when you can’t prepare for something difficult happen, you can still choose your perspective–your car breaks down late at night, you’re late to an interview, you don’t have the money to go to a family reunion, a conversation is going horribly wrong.
You don’t have to suffer through a difficult situation. This tool works in any moment.
If things aren’t going well for you right now, and it’s hard to expect the best, let’s schedule a time to talk. In a free clarity call, I’ll give you specific tools to help you take action so that you can get rid of the drama and find your confidence.
I’ll help you find the good again in your relationships and help you create more of it. If you’re ready to stop sitting with that tension around you and want to start seeing more good, sign up for a free clarity call with me.