Have you ever been lying in bed at night, thinking about a conversation that didn’t go the way you would have liked?
Then, you come up with the perfect response because you’ve had a few hours to think about it.
But you really wish you could have responded with that much clarity in the moment.
Instead, you completely froze, and the person walked away.
Even if someone approaches you nicely, it can feel unfair when you don’t have time to think and respond in the moment.
It’s easy to take the blame for something that wasn’t your fault because you’re confused.
But you can’t always have the information you need in order to respond with clarity.
Sometimes you get caught off-guard, and you need time to think about the issue so you can respond with the right information.
In the moment, you can say, “I’m not sure why that happened. Can I have some time to think about it, and we can talk about it tomorrow?”
When you do this, you won’t feel like you’re being treated unfairly because you’re speaking up for your needs with confidence in the moment by saying you need time to think about the problem.
You’ll also avoid feeling like you have to defend yourself in the moment, which can create more tension and confusion.
It can be awkward to go back to someone later on to clarify what really happened.
But after you’ve had some time to think about it, you have the right to go back to the person and say, “I was thinking about what you said, and….”
Try it out the next time you’re caught in the moment and don’t know how to respond.
Expecting the best for you!